There’s a picture of your life… and you’re somewhere in it. Um… aren’t you?
When did your life become all about everyone else? When did you start forgetting about what you need, what you like, how you want to spend your time? When did you slip out of the frame?
It sounds selfish and slightly narcissistic to even consider making it ‘all about me’. After all, our earliest lessons were about sharing and giving – giving in, giving out, giving up.
Then there’s school, where you spend all your time blending in – even when you go goth or punk you’re flat out blending in with a group. And if you’ve got talent or brains or personality, you’d better learn to keep a lid on it, or you’ll hear about it from your peers.
We learn those lessons well and we carry them into adulthood. No wonder we don’t feel quite right inside, we feel slightly off-centre, we’re careful not to ‘rock the boat’. We’re afraid that if we let the real person come out, everything would change.
We’d no longer be able to ‘settle’ and we’re pretty fearful about how the people we care about would react to that – and to us. They might be nice to our face, but secretly wish our heads would explode. They might want us out of their lives.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.’
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we subconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson, A Return To Love (1992)
Isn’t it time to take back your life? And we’re talking about doing it in a healthy way. We’re talking about the one life that is yours – no hereafter, no second chances, no dress rehearsals. This is it. So what are you waiting for?
It’s time to put yourself back in the picture…